(March 7, 2013)
I don't think I want to put an age limit to you dating guys because maturity matters more. But I don't want you to be going around asking for guys numbers. I trust you in doing the right thing. But from my experience I have seen guys be unpredictable and do really stupid things. So be careful. But when you think you found someone ask these questions to yourself then you'll know.
1. Is he Christian?
- I'm not asking if he goes to church, I'm asking if he has a strong relationship with God. Does he Love God?
A man who loves God and is grounded in His word is more valuable than a man who loves you more. This is someone who has to seek God and be able to hear his voice. Sometimes it's hard to tell where they stand in their relationship with God, but this is the key to having a healthy relationship with you. Pray that this be revealed to you.
2. Is he worth it?
-How long will you be together and do you see yourself being together till marriage?
So this one may be hard to answer because our emotions can cloud our judgement, but we need to put that aside when determining if he is worth it. This is a deep one. In the future, do you see him there? I am sure you want to because you like him, but this is the tough part. Do his qualities add value to your life, because they need to make you want to be a better person and christian.
3. Are you ready for commitment?
- Do you have time to have a boyfriend? With that being said, you need to determine why you are starting to date a guy. Investing time in someone is so important because that is how you get to know them. There are things that should take priority in your life before this like education, family, friends, God. This question is not to scare you but for you to realize how valuable your heart is and how you shouldn't easily give it up to just any boy you're not committed to.
4. Does he love you?
- Most importantly does he treat you right? Many people don't know what it means to be treated right, until they have been truly treated right. Someone in your life who loves you wants what is best for you, they want you to be happy and are selfless is making sure you feel loved as well. A guy in your life should want to take care of you, they should value you, respect you at all costs. The way that he treats you is so important, be wise to not let your feelings for him justify his wrongful actions.
If you can answer those then you can go out with him.
-From your mom.
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